People talk about the “Relationship and Trust” they have with their Doctor in this health care debate. “Don’t get between me and my Doctor.”
Many people have primary care givers they hardly known and specialists, etc. The normal “professional objectivity” takes the patient from “you” to “it.” I recall my sister being told in a hospital room, with no relatives there at the time for support, that you have about a 40% chance to live because of breast cancer. I also saw her hopes drop (she died that very day) when a very frank and uncaring Doctor’s Assistant told her when she was dying in the hospital: “Just let nature take its course.” Up to that point it was obvious that she was trying so hard to live.
I’m not trying to paint Doctors (unlike politicians) as uncaring but let you understand that you are an object (called a patient) and even more so (on a much greater scale) with for-profit Insurance Companies. You generally have no real relationship and no clue if their treatment will cure you or kill you.
Daniel Goleman , Harvard PhD and winner of the American Psychological Association’s Lifetime Achievement Award, says the following in his book Social Intelligence:
“Duffy was still half-asleep when, without any warning, she was surrounded by white-coated strangers–a doctor and a group of medical students. The doctor, without a word, pulled off her blanket and stripped off her nightgown as though she were just a mannequin, leaving her naked.
Too weak to protest, Duffy managed a sarcastic ‘Well, good morning’ to the doctor, who ignored her.
Instead he launched into a lecture on carcinoma for the gaggle of medical students who circled her bed. They duly stared at her naked body, detachedly indifferent to her.
Finally the doctor deigned to speak directly to Duffy, asking distractedly, ‘Have you passed gas yet?’
When she tried to assert a bit of humanity with a snappy comeback–’No, I don’t do that until the third date’–the doctor looked offended, as though she had let him down.
What Duffy so urgently wanted in that moment was for the doctor to affirm her personhood by even a small gesture that would allow her a bit of dignity. She needed and I-You moment. What she got was a cold dose of It.
As Duffy was, we are inevitably troubled when someone we expect to loop with for one reason or another fails to take up their half of the circuit. The result: we feel bereft–something like a baby whose mother refuses to pay attention to her.”
America is in trouble today not because of doctors with “professional objectivity” but that false information (so-called facts) abounds and lies are told to a people that should know better. And so, for the strange silence, lack of empathy, and input from religions leaders on this important issue: “Our religion is not Jew, Muslim, or Christian but a misplaced Nationalism.” Dumbed down religion for the masses (we’re the greatest and the best) that is very different from the “proud to be American.” Nationalism is our true religion (God’s Nation). Therefore, we make statements that are not only untrue but stupid at the surface. We sometimes observe some of the so-called news people and think: “If only you were dying of cancer you would change your mind about ‘examining’ the quality of health care in America.” Unfortunately, I’m not too sure that some wouldn’t lie even in their final breath.
It’s About Money–Stupid!
Isn’t this a moral issue too?