You are a Champion!
There is no better topic on becoming a good leader and “keeping” the organization and structure you have established. In just seconds your tongue can tear down months and years of work. In fact, even companies and churches are destroyed because of the lack of tongue control by the leaders. Proverbs 12:18, “There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health.”
“The tongue should speak life not death!” Todd Cash.
A rule established by the founder of our company and mentioned in leadership meetings and training is this, “If it is not necessary to say it is necessary not to say.”
“Look, I am fully aware that my public image is–how can I put this?–that of a cantankerous guy who rants up and down the sidelines screaming at people and smashing headsets. But that’s what you saw on Saturday–although that’s also pretty much how I acted at practice during the week, too.
But what you didn’t see was how we talked to each other during the week–my coaches, my players, my staff. I’m telling you right now: You can NOT be a leader unless you like people! You’ve got to spend time with them, so you can know them. You’ve got to be interested in who they are, what they do away from the job, and how they think.
If you do not like people, you will not take the time to get to know them, and if you don’t get to know them, you will have no idea what scares them, what inspires them, what motivates them. If you don’t listen to what your people have to say, you will not know when they have a problem with you–and you will not know when you have a problem with them, either.
My players listened to me for one very simple reason: I listened to them!
Without that, they really have no reason to respect you, and they will not follow you. Because they know you really don’t care.“ Bo Schembechler, Michigan Wolverines
99.9% of the time if we have a failure in life it is going to be because we don’t have the wisdom to keep silent. Of course, this will be harder for some personality types than others. I remember a high school coach being asked by a student why he had a black eye and this was his response: “I was talking when I should have been listening.”
Always think about this when you speak: “What is the reason for this comment and what “great thing” will it accomplish.” Well, you say: “Talk about going overboard!” No, there is a time to speak and this is so important that I am adding double emphasis. See my article Born on Third Base regarding (20) Habits we need to stop.
If you become a leader in any organization you will start to become aware of the “dirty laundry.” This goes triple if you are part of the core of a church. Why do I make that comment? No matter how dedicated and how hard we may strive at being better in life there will be failure (sometimes big failures). All organizations struggle with this daily.
It’s important to know about the rumbling in your organization and this is different from gossip or language that tears down the structure. We have to have an open door of communication but there should be rules. Also, if you want to be kept in the loop and informed be sure and be known as a person that keeps confidence and controls the tongue. My wife and I were in a leadership meeting and a VP, no longer in the company, was sharing some comments about another leader. The problem with the comments was this: “We know that leader better than them and the comments were not welcome.” By a few choice and polite words my wife let the person know that these comments were not welcome. That particular leader, being talked about, was a major reason that the company had its success and was well respected and liked by many. This tears down what has already been established so why is it being said?
Stay out of the personal affairs and problems of your Distributors! You are not their Doctor, etc. This is a business. A friend can ask for help and that’s OK. A good example comes to my mind right now. My wife, and a downline Distributor in another state, decided they needed to deal with a personal problem that was hurting the business. An upline Sponsor was suing one of her downline Sponsors and this person was a serious producer. We were thinking that this situation was really bad for business and needed to be addressed. That was a mistake, because the person was suing for a real reason and the person we were trying to protect wasn’t worth protecting and no longer in the business. Think long and hard about meddling in someones affairs. Also, you might want to go with the core values instead of the money.
Know your audience! Rick Warren, “At Saddleback Church we do not expect unbelievers to act like believers until they are. We do not expect visitors in the crowd to act like members of the congregation. We expect very little from the seeker who is investigating the claims of Christ. We simply say, as Jesus did in his first encounter with the disciples, “Come and see!” We invite unbelievers to check us out, to see for themselves what the church is all about.”
“It’s not about lowering standards or watering-down the message
but starting where people are.”
Promotion versus Training:
The art of promotion is a big factor in the creation of our goal (momentum). Serious training is done with the “core” group, or a session called TRAINING. This is not for the person who knows nothing about the business or the product. THIS IS A PROCESS!
If you are trying to sell someone on the products or the business why would you have someone as a speaker who doesn’t even know how to make that discernment or pick a topic? A good leader controls the meeting! Remember, “Organizing, Directing, and Controlling?”